Blog Hops

[jana_denardo]

I have two I wanted to share if others want to play along. First is the Suicide Prevention Blog hop This year alone, I lost a good friend to suicide, my coworker lost her sister and just last week my secretary lost her young cousin. This is a cause that is important to me.

I'd be lying if I said I've not been on the brink or that I didn't have a plan. I've lived with depression most of my life and you couple it with more than one chronic illness, it's not a good recipe. But I'm here and doing good and what little I can do to help, I will. Please join in if you'd like.

And on a MUCH happier note, Rachel Harrie's Platform Building Campaign is back in a month. Actually someone else will be running it (find the link on Rach Writes linked above). This has been such a great experience for me in the past. I know some of my friends have enjoyed it as well.

Comments

[havocmangawip.livejournal.com]

I am a huge fan of To Write Love on Her Arms.

I'm now that "one" who would see it as a release, but then realizes it's JUST NOT POSSIBLE. I just couldn't do it. For fear of not being organized enough in my affairs... or traumatizing first responders. Yup, it's just not in the cards, unless a meteor decides to fall on my head. :(

[havocmangawip.livejournal.com]

I'm also helping a fandom friend first, and now friend, try to sort some of her deceased sister's collections, get them to good homes, away from her... get valuable items made "more valuable" with autographs. (MUST get on getting this one thing to her signed and "permissioned" by Vic... with PROOF photos... )

So I take Mom's advice from when she was very good at it and I was SO panicked and frightened at night and she worked nights... when I was at my sickest. "Have a little snack. Take a nice long shower. GO TO SLEEP. It will look a little better in the morning."

[jana-denardo.livejournal.com]

good luck with all of that.

sleep hmmmm that's something escaping me this week

[jana-denardo.livejournal.com]

that is a great organization

Believe me, you've seen my posts earlier this year. Having my friend commit suicide then all of his wishes go unheeded because he didn't properly do his will was almost as hard as losing him

[havocmangawip.livejournal.com]

That would be the worst. Just something I couldn't do with my track record and MO of feeling unworthy. I suppose that's a good thing in the self-preservation sense.

I know my family would go along with my wishes. I just don't want them to have to.

When my grandmother died here in NY people asked mother why she just didn't have her cremated to save money.

There was MUCH MORE than enough in the estate to have her flown, rent a van to travel in, get a hotel, and bury her in grand style like she did her husband and son, and other destitute alienated relations.

Why "friends" suggested that was a mystery. She never made wishes or demands. Her coffin was beautiful and much like she chose for relations.

Despite trouble to the undertaker she was buried FULLY dressed as always. In pantyhose and shoes. (We got her isotonor slippers two sizes too big so they didn't curl her feet.).

Ridiculous? Likely. But she was a lady to the end. It was likely positively Egyptian.

[jana-denardo.livejournal.com]

I hear you. While I don't believe that suicides go to hell, my family is Catholic and I saw first hand back in the 80's when a friend committed suicide how that went. I wouldn't want to put them thru the shit the church dishes.

It's good she got her final wishes. My friend was mostly estranged from his family...a family that got everything against his wishes because that's how WI does it if you have no will.

[havocmangawip.livejournal.com]

Grandpa had all those details in an AMAZING trust. For years when taking his siblings and inlaws and friends out, their mine is "no good" it's still "on grandpa". That's a good feeling. It's set up ironclad with funds protected as its gone all to females as he has no grandsons.

She just didn't pick her songs and service details. We discussed our preferred arrangements in depth on that trip. I want no viewing, and have a list if songs I want played and keep updated pictures that I love. I'll be cremated, mixed with pink glittered and parceled out to a few places. The memorial will be a party. The only black will be LBDs. Martini bar with some signature drinks, hors douvres as I live party food, a barista, and a chocolate fountain.

It's in the genes. One member of the family left funds for a Dixieland band.

[jana-denardo.livejournal.com]

that is really cool. Mostly my family has always been too poor to leave much in the way of funds. One of the reasons I want a house is to claim the furniture one grandma left me.

I go back and forth on what I want done. I'll need to decide sooner rather than later (but I'm pretty sure there'll be no pink glitter. :) )